How to Maintain a Positive Mindset Regardless of the Situation

Life is full of situations beyond our immediate control, and some things are unpredictable and unavoidable. This is especially true when you suddenly find yourself in a role as a supporting caregiver. However, while we cannot always control external circumstances, our mindset is something we can shape and control completely.

 With practice, our mindset can be whatever we choose it to be.  We can overcome nearly any situation – with a positive mindset and patience.  This is a powerful skill.

A negative mindset practically guarantees many challenges in life. “Why does this happen? It is so unfair.” Ruminating on this type of negative self-talk can drain you.  

A positive mindset doesn’t guarantee smooth sailing, but it’s a tremendous help.  Our mindset influences our happiness and success! 

If You Don’t Like Something, Change It.  If You Can’t Change It, Change Your Attitude. 

Working Out a Solution – Keeping A Detailed Schedule Keeps Me Productive 

 “My sister, Jane, and I are our father’s caregivers. When he was younger, he served as a professional firefighter, so he has a strong will and values his independence. At 85 years old, he now suffers from debilitating dementia and requires a lot of assistance. 

As a caregiver for many years, I’ve learned that taking even five minutes to plan can save much time in the long run. For example, Jane and I review a week’s schedule for our dad’s care and appointments. This makes us less likely to have gaps in coverage and allows me to plan my work around his appointments, ensuring we have extra help when needed. Without this planning, we often have last-minute stress and wasted time. I also try to plan for the bigger picture, considering future care needs as Dad’s Alzheimer’s progresses. 

If I’m unclear about everything on my plate, I waste time feeling overwhelmed and doing bits and pieces of various tasks. A list serves as a visual reminder to keep me on track, helps me focus, and aids in prioritization. I categorize tasks into: 

1. Need to do/know 
2. May need to do/know 
3. Want to do/know 

Sometimes, the big tasks, like doing Dad’s taxes or finding a new paid caregiver, take precedence. Other times, checking off several smaller items gives me a sense of accomplishment that propels me forward.” 

Here are the techniques for developing a positive mindset that can lead you toward the life you want: 

1. Look for a solution. Focusing on finding a solution rather than dwelling on the challenge can uplift your mood and mindset. Those with a positive mindset expect to find solutions to their problems.
2. Your mindset is a choice you make. You have the power to choose your mindset. While you might currently view the world in a certain way, you can choose a new mindset that serves you better. You can direct your focus as you choose.
3. Be willing and able to laugh at all times. Find humor in negative situations, as life is short. A good laugh won’t hurt and might help.
4. Use your self-talk to your advantage. The words you say to yourself and the images you visualize influence your thoughts and mindset. Positive self-talk and images lead to a positive mindset.
5. Fill your mind with positive media. Choose positive news, videos, books, and articles to consume, as negative input leads to negative output.
6. Practice gratitude. Gratitude is a significant part of developing an effective mindset. Start and end your day with gratitude. When frustrated, make a list of things you’re grateful for.
7. Stay present. Focus on progressing in the present moment and avoid worrying about the future or dwelling on the past.
8. Volunteer. Giving your attention to others through volunteering offers perspective and a break from your challenges. It’s also a way to feel gratitude. Your mindset is one of the things fully under your control. All that is required is to make a conscious effort to seize control of your thoughts and practice. Mental habits can be challenging to break. We become addicted and habituated to certain thought processes. We’re reactive rather than responsive.

When juggling life, work, and caregiving, life is invariably the area that gets squeezed out. But we don’t expect our cars to run on empty, and we can’t expect ourselves to. We must fill our tanks first to have the energy to care for others. 

You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can control your reaction to what happens to you. By controlling your mindset, you gain far more control over your destiny. You’ll enjoy your life a lot more, too. 

Self-Reflection Questions: 

1. How does a negative attitude affect your day? 
2. How would your life be different if you had a positive attitude regularly? 
3. What are your primary obstacles to having a positive attitude regularly? How can you avoid or overcome these obstacles?